It’s been a busy day here in CoParenting101 land. First up, Deesha’s latest co-parenting post, “Divorce Cakes are Bittersweet with Kids in the Mix” is up at The Faster Times. Here’s an excerpt:
And what divorce party would be complete without the cake? Looking for some divorce cake inspiration? Here are 31 super-subtle possibilities, including a graveyard cake with your wedding ring in casket, all set for burial. ‘Cause your marriage is dead…get it?? But my personal favorite has to be the one with the confectionary divorced dude getting what appears to be a blowjob from a confectionary blonde. In a confectionary hot tub, of course. Talk about getting the divorce party started right! Har, har, har.
But seriously, folks: While I didn’t have a divorce cake or a divorce party, I can relate to the thinking and emotions behind them. (Well, I can relate to the desire to move on and mark a new chapter in one’s life–not the blood splattered brides and grooms nor the embedded knives.) And to be sure, when parents can cope and heal from the aftermath of divorce, they are in a better position to help their children do the same. Divorce parties and cakes, with their broad humor, might just help some parents along in the healing process.
But what message might this send to your kids? Read the rest and weigh in on the conversation: If you are divorced, did you have a divorce party? What’s your take on divorce cakes–fun, tacky, or both?
Speaking of moving on, the topic of tonight’s episode of “Co-Parenting Matters” was “Getting Over Your Ex”. It was a really great show, featuring lively conversation and powerful insights and advice from Kim Hess the Divorce Guru and family therapist Dr. Makungu Akinyela. In case you missed it, here’s the podcast:
Fittingly, after tonight’s “Getting Over Your Ex” show, next week’s show is “Sex and the Single Parent”. Join us and our co-host Talibah Mbonisi of WeParent.com, as we welcome our guests and cyber-friends, Rachel Sarah, author “Single Mom Seeking” and founder of the blog of the same name; and, repping for the dads, RJ Jaramillo of SingleDad.com