After our marriage ended, we became the poster-children for divorce amongst our circle of friends and colleagues. We wished we could have been the poster children for successful marriage, but it didn’t work out that way…

(photo courtesy of T. Foley)
In the wake of our divorce and despite the problems that ended our marriage, we have managed to establish a successful, congenial co-parenting relationship which allows our children to thrive and which causes those who know us to ask, “How in the world do you do it?”

We are not, however, advocates for divorce. In fact, we tell couples who seek our advice to only consider divorce as their very last option. We won’t debate whether staying together “for the sake of the kids” is best for children. That’s a personal decision each thoughtful couple must make for themselves. But we’ve heard from many co-parents who report that using “for the sake of the kids” as the glue to hold their marriages together didn’t work ultimately. This site is a resource for those parents and for others who find themselves parenting after divorce or separation for whatever reason.

We hope the articles, essays, and resources herein will be useful to you and your family. We invite you to lurk, comment, ask questions, and share your stories with us. From time to time, we’ll post stories about our co-parenting life as well…like this one.

Best wishes for a successful co-parenting journey!

~Michael Thomas and Deesha Philyaw
Disclaimer: We are not counselors, licensed or otherwise, nor are we able to provide legal services as we are not qualified to give legal advice. The “Legal Resources” section includes sites that offer divorce-related legal information.