Are you wondering if bird’s nest co-parenting could work for your family?  Or are you wondering, “What’s bird’s nest co-parenting?”  A co-parenting mom of three breaks it down for us in this guest post.

 My ex-husband and I are attempting Bird’s Nest Custody.  I say attempting because it is an up and down process but we are both committed to making this work for our three young children for as long as we can.

It was 3 years ago when I realized I was unhappy in my marriage.  I discussed it with him repeatedly but we are just so different, I mean we are radically different, and once it was verbalized, it became the elephant in the living room and readily apparent that we would have a very difficult time ever being partners.  We went to marriage counseling for 8 months, and finally admitted to each other that our marriage would never be happy.  We were not going to grow old together.  We wanted different things.

That day in therapy we were both tearful but had finally reached the point that we could look at each other and ask, “what about the children?”   With the therapist looking on, we agreed that we had 2 options that some couples don’t have, primarily because we weren’t angry at each other (although admittedly we were disappointed with each other in spades).   We could stay together for another 10 years to give the children an intact home for as long as we could, or we could split now and try to make it as good for the children as possible.