Since we’ve been focusing on the holidays this week, I read the following post on BlogHer with interest:

I’m desperate for some advice, my BFF is in a terrible sad dilemma:

Her dirtbag ex (he cheated on her!) wants to take her kids away from her for the holiday break. They have joint-custody, and she’s feeling so much pressure, she’s been crying non-stop to me on the phone every night. She’s NEVER been away from her kids at Christmas, and I’ll be away with my in-laws, leaving her totally alone.

Her ex is now dating a MUCH YOUNGER trampy girl, who’s got free access to a fancy ski house in Colorado. The ex called the kids and invited (them only!) to spend the holidays with him and his new “flame.” The whole thing makes me sick because she’s such a wimp, she’s afraid to say no, especially since her kids are begging her nonstop. They think they’ll never get a chance to go somewhere fancy (and free) like that again. I suggested my BFF write into my favorite advice column, “AMY VS. JOHN” at Wetv dot com (Do any of you read it?? It’s great, so funny!) and they actually answered her question the very next week. The woman said tell your ex, “NO, NO, NO!!!” But the guy said to let them go and have fun. Who do you moms agree with??? Should a mother EVER be separated from her kids at Christmas????

Please give us some advice…THANKS!

My response: