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I (Deesha) took our oldest daughter to see “UP” this afternoon. It was quite the tear-jerker and much “deeper” than I had anticipated. I was also surprised to discover a little co-parenting-related moment in this film. The young adventurer Russell tells his octogenarian friend Carl that he doesn’t see much of his dad anymore. Russell’s parents aren’t together, and he keeps calling his dad, but he doesn’t come around. Worse, when he calls, his dad’s girlfriend (or wife–it’s not specified), Phyllis, tells Russell to “stop bugging” his dad. Ouch!!! This is precisely the kind of behavior that lends credence to the wicked stepmother mythology.

Fortunately for Russell, when his dad disappoints him once again at a special moment in his life, his mom is there for him and so is his good friend, Carl.

See “UP”! Bring tissues!

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Last Updated on Sunday, 7 June 2009 | 07:16

A co-parenting dad we know shared the following story with us:

When my ex-wife and I were first separated, I reached out to her to talk about our middle daughter’s development and pending puberty.  We have shared custody, with our daughters alternating between our households–a week with me, a week with her.  Because of this arrangement, I knew there was a 50-50 chance of our daughter starting her period at my house.  My ex had already discussed puberty with her, but I had not been privy to the details of that conversation.  I wanted to make sure that my ex and I were on the same page in case I was the “parent on duty” when my daughter’s period started.

I understood that things were still very raw for my ex; I initiated the divorce, and I could have been a better husband to her.  However, I saw my relationship with my daughters and my concern for them as separate issues from our marital–and now divorce–issues.  So, I was surprised when my ex responded to my inquiry about her previous discussion with our daughter by snapping, “She knows what she needs to know!” and refusing to discuss the matter with me further.

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Last Updated on Wednesday, 3 June 2009 | 11:07